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Discussing divorce with your children can be one of the most challenging conversations you’ll have during the entire process. At Albin Oldner Law, our Frisco divorce lawyers understand this subject’s delicacy and aim to protect your child’s best interests with care and compassion.

Here’s a guide on how to talk to children about divorce, designed to help you navigate this difficult conversation in a way that supports and reassures your children.

how to talk to children about divorce

Prepare for the conversation

Before you speak to your children about divorce, it’s essential to be prepared. This means deciding in advance the key points you want to cover and ensuring you’re emotionally ready to handle their reactions. Coordinating with your spouse about what will be said is often helpful. This unity can prevent conflicting messages and provide a consistent narrative that helps the children feel more secure.

Choose the right time and place

Select a time when your children will have the opportunity to process the information and ask questions without being rushed. Choose a quiet, private place where they feel safe and comfortable. Avoid times of high stress, such as right before school or bedtime. Your children must know they have the time and space to express their feelings.

Be honest and clear

Use age-appropriate language to explain the situation. It’s important to be honest yet gentle. You can say something like, “We have tried very hard, but we have decided that we can no longer live together.” Avoid sharing unnecessary details or adult issues, such as financial pressures or infidelity. The focus should be on the changes in the family structure, not the reasons behind them.

Reassure them of your love

Children need to know that both parents will continue to love them and that the divorce is not their fault. Many children feel they might be to blame, so it’s crucial to reassure them that they are loved and that these adult decisions are not because of anything they have done.

Discuss changes expectantly

Explain what will change and what will stay the same. Be clear about where they will live, how often they will see each parent, and what their daily routines might look like. However, also reassure them about the aspects of their life that will not change, such as attending the same school or continuing their favorite activities.

Encourage questions

Allow your children to ask questions and express their feelings. Respond to their inquiries honestly but remember to keep the information age-appropriate. This dialogue can help them feel involved and reassure them that their opinions and feelings are valued.

Offer continuous support

The conversation about divorce should not be a one-time discussion. It should be ongoing, allowing your children to come back with more questions or for further reassurance as they begin to process what the divorce will mean for them. Check in with them regularly about how they are feeling and what they are thinking.

Seek professional help if needed

If your child is having difficulty adjusting, consider seeking help from a counselor specializing in family therapy and children. They can provide your child with a safe space to explore their feelings and develop healthy coping strategies.

We’re committed to you

At Albin Oldner Law, we’re committed to helping families navigate the challenges of divorce with as much ease and support as possible. Talking to your children about divorce is never easy, but with the right approach, you can help them adjust positively to their new family dynamic. If you need further guidance or support, our team is here to help.

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